In a recent coaching conversation, my coache mentioned she is carrying a self image of a non-confident, not-competent girl who is not good in anything. Imagine carrying this image for 20 years or nearly half of her life.
She was not always like that, she was a talented, confident and apple of everyone’s eyes in school, home and college. A great dancer, good in all subjects, participating in each and every competition without a fear and excelling in all things she did. Then what happened that turned her image by 180 degree?
On digging deeper, she mentioned it was her loved one who started mocking her for whatever she did. Saying things like “you are not good in dancing, body shaming, no dressing sense at all”. That person’s consistent attack on her image lead her to believe that all that was true. She replaced a confident girl’s image with an under-confident and non-competent girl. Now, whenever she looks in the mirror, she sees that girl who can loose a race even she is the only one participating.
Your self image is something that you see in yourself first and then rest of the world sees exactly the same image. That means if you see yourself as under-confident, the world will see you under-confident.
Pay attention to what you keep hearing from people around you. *Are you creating a self image based on other people’s narrative? * These people can be your close ones or your boss/colleagues in the office. These people will always find fault in whatever you do and make you doubt on your abilities.
*Never let others create your image, otherwise soon you will see a defeated and powerless person standing in the mirror. *
